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maya el khaldi
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الروايات الاجنبية
Hey Girls
I missed your questions my friend so I am glad to see you doing them again and now, i'll try to answer after all you said girls
I never been married so it's only based on my opinion and no experience. I agree with you drago about how wives should have a life. I always tell my friends I would love to be a wife and love my husband, kids and home 6 days a week. That's right 6 Days cause I would want to spend the 7th day with ME. It'd be ME DAY. Where i get to do anything and everything i want with myself or my girl friends away from everyother thing i have to go through on week days
We as a society think that once a woman got married, she's defined as a wife. do what wives do and be recognized as someone's wife and when she get kids, she's a mother, defined as someone's mother. That's not general to be fair but it's mostly the case. So the result, women lose themselves. No hobbies, no girl friends, no identity and no independence and above all if one realizes that and tried to change it, people would call her selfish and not a loving caring mother and wife. Now that's just too aweful
Balance is the key. One of my friends just got engaged and since then, her fiancee check her mobile messages and asked her for the password of her e-mail claiming that they'll be married and will be one person and when i said to her what i think, she looked at me as if i was mad and i dicussed it with a friend of mine who is a guy and he was saying it's the natural thing to do
Okay, here's my opinion. When TWO people decide to get married, they're agreeing to be partners. Love, care for eachothers and build a family together but they're still TWO people. TWO human beings and not one. Marriage shouldn't mean that we lose ourselves in the process and become someone we're not. We are to be sharing our life and being equal partners but we need space sometimes or we'll end up in the routine you mentioned
Okay, now as about divorce, it can be our last resort if life became impossible between two people. You can't expect to hate each others yet staying together cause you'll end up hurting your kids and yourselves in the process. Of course both couple should have an open COMMUNICATION session to see what went wrong. If only one of the couples is trying and the other isn't then it won't work cause again, it's a partnership and as they say, it takes two to tango, so they'll have to just get a divorce and try to make it friendly for the'r kids sake. That's my humble opinion
Sorry girls if i took so long and wrote so much but it's some topic that i hear about a lot and i had to say my opinions even if some people don't like it
Waiting to know what you think
Later My Friends
Love ya always
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08-01-09, 09:07 AM
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